What a year 2020 has been. When we found out we were expecting, it was pre pandemic and the year ahead looked very different. ‘The Frugality Talks’ were about to begin, I was making plans to launch The Frugality Shop and set to have the busiest year work-wise.
A lot of those plans changed, but not necessarily in a bad way. For us, we learnt to slow down, address what was important and make a lot of decisions for the better. On Friday we handed in the keys to our office and moved everything back home, there would have been a time when I would’ve seen this as a failure but now I know it’s the right decision – we weren’t even allowed access to the building March – June and with my maternity leave starting in November, we knew it didn’t make sense to be spending money on an office in these tricky times with work being so up in the air. With a working kitchen now, things have become remarkably easier to be at home full-time and I am actually looking forward to some time off from work to be able to relax with our newborn.
I learnt a lot of lessons last time with my maternity leave and I am trying to make a conscious effort not to make the same mistakes. Being freelance and going on maternity leave is tricky enough in that it’s almost impossible to switch off, you get very little financial support and have a constant guilt about work/life balance (but let’s face it, who doesn’t have that?!), but here are a few rules I will be implementing (typing these out is probably more for me than you!):
I will be easy on myself, not try and do ‘everything’ and accept my limitations. And if that is just watching a Channel 5 Christmas movie holding a baby, that’s fine.
I will be on social media when it feels right for me and try not to be there because I feel I have to.
I will not look at work emails, set an out of office, stick to it and delete them when I decide to come back to work (I remember Lily Pebbles doing this and was so impressed as I kept dipping in an out last time).
I will work on my boundaries on what I want to share vs what I feel I ‘should’ be sharing online.
Saying all that, 2020 has been good to us – everyone’s support on our kitchen renovations, our pregnancy post baby loss and matchbox launch has been really overwhelming and it has really cemented for me that I have the most amazing, loyal readers. So thank you, and see you soon.
PS we have another limited run of The Frugality x Frances Costelloe matches coming hopefully before December – you can sign up here to be notified first!